Is He Really Transitioning With Me?

On September 1st, 2010 I applied my last texturizer to my hair and declared the beginning of my journey to natural hair. How excited I was imagining my natural kinks and curls dancing on my head and changing my life's song. I imagined big hair and the thought made me smile often. The feeling was uplifting.

Looking back, it was an easy start. I wore my hair in twists for the first few months and the compliments could fill my designer suitcase until I could no longer zip it shut. I found a few staple hair products almost from the very beginning. [I give thanks to YouTube's natural hair contributors for that.] With a passion for embracing my authentic self, a love for natural hair, a body filled over the brim with confidence, and a few staple hair products, I was walking proudly through a life changing moment.


As I sit and think back on the things, situations, and emotions that edged me through the first year of my transition, there is one thing that couldn't be more affirming. When I made the decision to transition, I was at a turning point. Not only was my hair transitioning but so was my life in many ways. My thoughts, my cares, and my aspirations were on a whirlwind of change. The old me had been dropped off at a destination with a one-way ticket and the new me was just arriving. Although confused, my heart and mind were wide open and during the very week that I began my transition, I connected with someone who was destined to play a significant role in my life in a short period of time.

Experiencing a life changing event of his own my new friend and I shared stories of our lives and what we hoped for our futures. To my surprise he said he always wondered what his hair would look like if he allowed it to grow. [He was clean cut.] Unsure of what his desire would yield he began his own journey and I gave him a happy and proud confirmation. In a blind blink of an eye, he became my transitioning partner. He provided me with affirmation, encouragement, support and love. He liked the idea of me going natural and complimented me in such a loving way on a regular basis. I can't imagine my transition without him and I truly refuse to see it any other way. He was placed in my life at the right moment in time.

More than one year later, I'm left with an eager anticipation to reach the end of my transition and I'm waiting with an overwhelming enthusiasm to see what becomes of his hair. It's an exciting co-journey.

Until next time. See ya lata'!